Author: Haydn Shaw
_Haydn Shaw_
Reading time: 19 minutes
Synopsis
Sticking Points (2013) looks at what happens when five generations work together. It explains how common goals at work often fail. This happens because people from different generations have different experiences, habits, and expectations. These lead to daily problems. The main idea is hopeful and useful. It says these problems are normal. We can manage them and solve them. We just need to learn how to work with differences, not against them.
What’s in it for me? Learn how to make problems between generations at work easier
You’ve probably been in this meeting. Someone’s checking their phone. Someone else looks annoyed. One person wants to talk it through. Another just wants the follow-up email. Everyone leaves annoyed.
This kind of problem appears everywhere at work. For example, people argue about working from home, how to give feedback, how long meetings should be, what clothes to wear, being loyal, and using technology. It might feel like a personal problem, but it usually isn’t. It’s not about small things. The real reason is something much bigger and newer.
Now, for the first time, people from many different times work together. Some grew up before TV. Some learned about email. Some grew up with social media. And some have only known life with smartphones. They all want to do good work. They all want respect, clear goals, and a reason for their work. But they do things in different ways.
This difference causes daily problems that build up. Younger workers feel that they are not listened to or that things are too slow. Older workers feel ignored or moved aside. Managers are in a difficult spot. They try to help everyone work well without choosing one side.
The first bit of good news? These problems are expected. They appear in the same ways, again and again. When you start to see these problems, they are easier to handle. That’s the second bit of good news.
This Blink looks closely at problems between generations. It shows how small changes in how flexible we are, how we understand others, and how leaders act can make these problems easier. It helps people work together. Most importantly, it shows how to stop blaming different generations. It also gives a plan for companies that want to include and support everyone who works for them.
Blink 1 – It doesn’t make much sense to wait your turn when five generations work together
For most of time, families and workplaces (which were often one and the same thing) followed a simple rule: you waited your turn. Power and money went slowly from older people to younger people. This happened when someone stopped working or passed away. This way of doing things made sense. In the past, people worked on farms with land and animals. Things changed very slowly. Jobs stayed the same for many years.
But that world is gone now. Today, we live and work in places where five generations are together. They rub shoulders. That’s new. And with this comes new problems.
People living longer is the first problem. One hundred years ago, people stopped working around 50. Now, many people start to do their best work at that age. Leaders stay in their jobs longer. This means younger workers often have to wait until they are older to have real power. So, young people’s hopes often clash with people living longer. Many young people worry that waiting doesn’t always bring good things.
The second problem is speed. Information travels very fast. This makes generations feel closer. New tools and ideas change work every few years. Often, a person in their twenties can learn systems that did not exist when their boss was trained. A young analyst can get information on a phone. Before, only top managers could see this information. This easy access means challenges come from everywhere. When knowledge spreads easily, it weakens old systems. In those systems, age and power used to go together.
The third change is about culture. The four youngest generations grew up as buyers. They learned to ask questions, compare things, and want choices. Many had parents who valued thinking for yourself more than just obeying. This way of thinking comes into the workplace. People want to share their ideas early. They want feedback often. They want work that feels interesting, not just a duty.
When companies face this situation, they often make two mistakes. First, they try to ignore the differences. Second, they try to make one generation act like another. This will surely waste energy and make people angry. People usually don’t like being told to change if they don’t want to.
Good leadership works, not just telling people to change. This starts by being curious about how work looks from another age group’s view. Then, it includes talking, finding agreements, and solving problems together. Change will happen no matter what. In this Blink, we will see that smart teams decide how much change to accept. They learn to understand people from different ages. And they keep working together instead of separating.
Blink 2 – What different generations like and what the business needs do not always match
Teams need to accept that different generations have different habits and expectations. Then, the question is how much to change. Training is an easy place to start. Some people want a room, a trainer, and a printed workbook. Others want a short video they can replay between meetings. Companies have argued about this for years. They act as if only one way can be best. The real need is simpler: people must learn the skill well so they can use it. Give more than one way to learn. Check that it works. And stop arguing about the method.
This idea is useful for more than just training. Not every rule should change. But many more can change than most leaders think. The main thing is to know which rules are important. A real business need keeps people safe, customers happy, and protects money or funds. If not following a rule hurts someone, makes customers leave, or loses money, then the rule is important. If not following it mainly just annoys someone in charge, it’s probably not important.
Rules about clothes make this difference easy to understand. In a factory, open shoes can cause accidents. In a hospital, they can spread germs. In a restaurant, they can make customers unhappy right away. In these places, rules about shoes protect people and make sure the business earns money. But in a spa or a relaxed place where you meet customers, the same rule might cause problems. A spa famous for good pedicures won’t gain anything by saying staff cannot wear sandals. In that place, the rule is just a habit, not a plan. And it costs a lot to keep old habits.
Problems appear when leaders stick to their old ways just because they are used to them. It feels good to do things your own way. But it doesn’t feel good to see younger workers lose interest or quit. Many companies are surprised. They find out that if they want comfort more than flexibility, they lose good workers, energy, and progress. Younger workers quickly see that things don’t fit. Some follow the rules but are not happy. Others leave.
Of course, being flexible doesn’t mean giving everyone whatever they want. It means making choices carefully. Keep the rules that protect what matters. Ask why some rules exist. Maybe they are there only because someone liked them in the past. Remember, many rules stay even when the reasons for them are gone.
If done well, this way of working shows the real benefit of teams with many generations. Each age group brings its own good points. For example, younger workers often bring speed and new tools. Older workers bring good sense and different views. When these good points come together, weaknesses become less important. Studies always show that teams with different ages work better together and finish more tasks. Leadership means putting people in the right places so the work gets done well. This only happens when being flexible helps the business, not just what someone personally likes.
Blink 3 – Communication works well when teams learn how each other likes to talk
Few things cause more problems between generations than how messages are sent, received, and understood. Everyone, no matter their age, wants the same thing: enough information to do their job well. They also want to feel part of the team and be respected. But each generation has its own way of talking that feels normal to them. These ways of talking are shaped by the tools people used as they grew up. This was often long before they started working.
Older generations built trust by using letters, memos, meetings, and phone calls. Experts gave information. Talking meant being patient and focused. Many still like to look people in the eye and talk without stopping. The next group, Gen X, grew up with TV. For them, stories were more important than official titles. Messages came quickly, in short parts. When email started, it became their main way to work. They saved phone calls or video chats for important talks.
Then came Millennials and Gen Z. These two groups grew up with the internet, social feeds, and always being in touch. They expect to talk with others, not just listen to one person speak. They want to comment, reply, and be part of the conversation. Social media tools feel normal to them. But only if people truly interact. Sending a message without getting replies feels useless. The youngest workers grew up using phones and tablets first. Pictures, speed, and clear designs are very important to them. They text all the time. But at work, they often like email because it is clear and written down. They know what they are good at. They also know where they need to improve, especially when talking face-to-face.
Being flexible is important here, but there are limits. The rule is still the same. If how you communicate affects customers, safety, or money, then it’s a business decision. What customers like always comes first. If customers want a call, you call. If they want a quick message or a video call, you change what you do. The same idea is true for hiring and keeping staff. Making things easy can decide if people stay interested or leave.
Good teams are flexible in both directions. Older workers try new tools. Younger workers slow down, listen, and learn the unwritten stories. These stories are not in messages. These stories give background, warnings, and wise ideas learned from experience.
The main idea is that every way of talking has good points and also things it misses. New tools make things faster and easier to reach. But they can also make people lose focus. People with experience often see problems early. Especially about staying focused and having too much to do. The goal is not to choose the best way. It is to learn how others talk. Then, choose the best way for the conversation you are having right then.
Blink 4 – Knowledge stays when we record what people know, instead of trying to find it later
We’ve learned that communication works better when teams understand how each other talks. The same idea is true for knowledge. This is important as experienced workers get closer to retirement. They are still important for daily work. The danger is real. Many companies worry about what happens when long-time staff leave. They take with them many years of knowledge.
This worry is understandable. Many older workers will keep retiring in the next ten years. But many will also stay as workers or customers. Workplaces will still have four or five generations at the same time. Sharing knowledge cannot wait. It must start now.
Here’s the problem: older workers often don’t like to write things down. Younger workers want the information. But they find it hard to listen to long stories face-to-face. Both groups feel annoyed if the problem is not openly discussed. What is the best way to solve this? Start with what everyone needs. Everyone needs information to do their job well. The problem is how that information should be shared. Older generations learned by listening and watching. Knowledge was in people, not in papers. Gen X used stories and also written guides. Millennials and Gen Z grew up searching, watching, and watching again. So, video feels normal to them. Written instructions are best when they are short and easy to find.
Being flexible is a business need here. The company must keep its knowledge. But how it’s done can change. Making experienced staff write everything down rarely works. Expecting younger workers to learn from long, unplanned stories rarely works either. Judging people by their age makes this harder. Often, older workers are not valued enough. But they do well in jobs that need good judgment and people skills. When they feel their ideas are not important, their valuable knowledge is kept hidden.
The easy way to solve this is to use everyone’s strengths. If younger workers learn from video, and older workers like to explain and show things, then record experienced staff doing real tasks. Keep it simple. Edit it later. Write down the words if needed. Even a phone camera is enough to begin.
Sharing knowledge does not need to be hard. Record what people know in ways that work for them. Do it early and often. The result is that work continues smoothly. People feel sure of themselves. And teams keep learning instead of starting from the beginning.
Blink 5 – Meetings work well when everyone feels listened to and time is used wisely
Knowledge is shared best when teams respect how different generations learn and share. This same understanding is important in meetings. There, habits from different generations often clash in real time. Nothing shows differences faster than putting people in a room and asking them to talk.
Meetings cause strong feelings. Each generation has a different idea of what good involvement looks like. Some leaders like meetings. They see them as key to teamwork. Others see them as something that stops them from real work. Older team members might think typing or texting means someone is not interested. Younger ones might see it as doing many things at once while listening well. Both groups think their way is sensible.
Forbidding devices rarely solves the problem. It just moves the frustration from screens to annoyed looks. The real problem is usually hidden. Each generation thinks the others are why meetings last too long. Long spoken updates feel respectful to some. To others, it feels like information that could have been written down.
Simple changes help. Instead of everyone speaking in a circle to report status, send short written updates before the meeting. Use meeting time for making choices, discussing, and finding solutions. Set clear goals at the start. Then, don’t worry if the talk goes in circles instead of straight lines. Younger thinkers often link ideas in ways that are not direct. That is not messy. It is just another way to understand things.
The most important thing is not a perfect plan, but feeling safe. Meetings work best when people feel free to ask questions. They should be able to say they don’t understand and speak without fear. Teams work better when everyone can share their ideas. Leaders should notice who is quiet and ask them to speak.
Being flexible helps both sides. Younger workers can do fewer things at once if it distracts others. Older workers can ask why old habits are still there. Meetings that are shorter, have clearer plans, and more preparation done online usually make everyone happy.
Remember, problems between generations are rarely caused by bad intentions. They come from common needs that people meet in different ways. Five generations at work doesn’t have to be a problem. When differences are understood and accepted, it can be a strength.
Final summary
In this Blink to Sticking Points by Haydn Shaw, you’ve learned that five generations now work side by side. This causes expected problems in daily work. People all want respect, clear goals, and a reason for their work. But they try to get these things in different ways. Problems appear with rules, talking, meetings, and sharing knowledge. This happens when personal likes become fixed rules. Teams can improve by openly talking about differences, being flexible when they can, and protecting what the business truly needs. Leaders get better results by helping people talk, by sharing the good points of all ages, and by creating work that helps everyone give their best.
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